Kylie Jenner’s announcement today confirming the birth of her baby daughter with Travis Scott was a breath of fresh air.
She kept her whole pregnancy a secret, although there were rumours, her pregnancy was never officially confirmed. Even the first few days of her daughter’s life was kept hidden from the world. Kylie’s decision to keep this special time of her life private made me see her in a different light.
In a world of over-sharing, attention-grabbing PR stunts, and social media, her secrecy and need for privacy sends a very important message that everyone should learn from.
She first apologised for keeping her fans in the dark in an post published today on her Instagram, “I’m sorry for keeping you in the dark through all the assumptions. I understand you’re used to me bringing you along on my journeys”, she wrote.
“my pregnancy was one I chose not to do in front of the world. I knew for myself I needed to prepare for this role of a lifetime in the most positive, stress free, and healthy way I knew how”
“I knew my baby would feel stress and every emotion so I chose to do it this way for my little life and our happiness,” she wrote.
A role of a lifetime it is. Nothing can prepare you to be a mother, but she prepared in the best way she knew how which was prioritising her health and the health of her baby.
She didn’t care about “milking” and profiting from her pregnancy. She stayed grounded and protected her mental health and her heart. We talk a lot about self-care after having giving birth, but often forget that self-care during pregnancy is also essential.
I am also a strong believer that your baby can feel your emotions, anxiety and stress. So minimising this as much as possible is essential for a smooth pregnancy. I applaud her for doing what she felt was right for her.
I feel like when you are pregnant a protective and coping mechanism kicks in, and you all of a sudden realise what is truly important. You do all you can to protect yourself physically and emotionally.
Well, that's what happened to me. All of a sudden things that would usually stress me out, I brushed off. Situations that would work me up, I shrugged off. I became like a machine. And I felt like it was all to protect myself and my baby.
I was one of those people that waited more than three months to tell my family and waited until I was five months pregnant before I told my workplace. And the only reason why I told them was because I physically couldn't hide it any longer.
The period where only you know about your pregnancy is truly the most special time. Once the world knows about your pregnancy you become public property. People feel the need to comment on just about everything, from the size of your bump, to how you look, to asking you endless personal questions like “are you going to know the sex”, to “are you planning on breastfeeding”, to birth plans. Oh and then there are the people who feel the need to touch your bump and share their negative experiences with you. Just what every pregnant mama needs to hear! Enough said.
So I completely understand her desire to minimise the drama and have a happy and positive pregnancy by keeping her pregnancy private for as long as possible. Her seriousness of her new role is truly admirable.
She went on to say “pregnancy has been the most beautiful, empowering, and life changing experience I’ve had in my entire life and I’m actually going to miss it. I appreciate my friends and especially my family for helping me make this special moment as private as we could.”
Yes, I completely relate. I still miss my bump and the whole pregnancy experience and my daughter is two years old now. Some people complain about their pregnancy, but to me, it was the most beautiful time of my life.
But hold on, let’s all just stop for a second and acknowledge her maturity, you guys, she is only twenty years old. She just recently left her teenage years and has entered adulthood.
I know what I was doing when I was twenty-years-old, and I also remember my immaturity, I certainly was not emotionally ready to be a mother at that age. And I honestly doubt I would have approached it the way she has.
Love them or hate them, the Kardashian’s are arguably the most influential figures of our times. And the younger clan, Kylie and Jenner, even more so. We’ve got the next generation looking up to them.
Sure maybe they don’t always reflect the best image to our youth, but and you might be thinking it’s not the best example getting pregnant at 20-years old. We can’t all paint people with the same brush stroke. We are shaped by so many things, our childhood, upbringing and life experiences.
You’ve got to remember that this girl has had to mature a lot quicker than the average teenager. And it was something she wanted, she’s desired to be a mother her whole life. And she did it with someone she loved, even though they’re not married.
Living in the spotlight for all these years, being under constant scrutiny and judgement, it certainly has given her a thick skin. Or it so appears from the outside. But even the strongest of us have vulnerable moments. Acknowledging your limitations takes a lot of self-awareness.
She then went on to say “my beautiful and healthy baby girl arrived February 1st and I just couldn’t wait to share this blessing. I’ve never felt love and happiness like this i could burst! Thank you for understanding.”
She also uploaded a beautiful heart-warming video on her YouTube channel titled ‘To Our Daughter’ which is a beautiful tribute to her baby girl. It shows footage of her pregnancy and messages from her nearest and dearest friends and family.
Kylie: I have full respect for your decision. I know you feel the need to apologise and justify this to the world, but really you don’t. It’s your life, your happiness. Hats off to you for doing what makes you happy. More people need to be like you. Enjoy your angel.
Read my tips on how to stay positive during pregnancy.